E – Expose the Patterns (Awareness & Education Phase)

Purpose: Shine light on the hidden cycles of narcissistic abuse so survivors can finally name and understand their experience.

Key Elements:

Understand narcissism & abuse cycles (idealization, devaluation, discard).

Map patterns & impacts across relationships, work, and self-image.

Build self-awareness by connecting past experiences to current struggles.

Reduce self-blame through psychoeducation (it wasn’t their fault).

Coaching Outcomes: Clients recognize manipulation for what it is, shift shame into clarity, and see their story as valid.

C – Clear the Residue (Detachment & Emotional Detox)

Purpose: Help survivors detach emotionally and begin releasing the residue of abuse.

Key Elements:

No/low-contact strategies for reducing toxic exposure.

Emotional unhooking: breaking trauma bonds & dependency.

Release shame and guilt through reframing and validation.

Mindfulness & somatic practices to calm the nervous system.

Coaching Outcomes: Clients experience relief, regulation, and the first true emotional space to heal.

H – Honor the Self (Identity & Boundaries Phase)

Purpose: Rebuild a sense of self that’s rooted in worth and authenticity.

Key Elements:

Discover core values as the foundation of new identity.

Create a boundary blueprint to protect peace and dignity.

Build self-worth rituals (affirmations, journaling, daily practices).

Recalibrate relationships — recognizing red flags and choosing safe connections.

Coaching Outcomes: Clients reclaim confidence, build boundaries, and step back into alignment with their authentic self.

O – Own the Future (Empowerment & Forward Momentum)

Purpose: Anchor healing in future vision, resilience, and empowerment.

Key Elements:

Vision casting & goal setting (life design after abuse).

Build resilience with relapse prevention & stress management tools.

Create empowered identity rooted in self-trust.

Live from authenticity, no longer defined by abuse.

Coaching Outcomes: Clients walk away with future goals, self-trust, and tools to sustain lifelong healing.